For us, love is air. Like breathing, loving is also an activity. And like breathing, it is unconsciously done. If we stop breathing, we immediately die. If our life lacks love, the same thing happens, albeit more slowly and less noticeably. We cease to exist, because the foundation and meaning of our existence has been called into question. Love is, after all, the reason why we are here on Earth.
Performing acts of love is required to create the experience of being loved for ourselves, for the relationship, and for the other person. If we “breathe” these acts, in and out, then we truly exist.
Every relationship is a small living creature that has to be cared for and nurtured.
How? By paying attention, being compassionate, listening, and by accepting, including, and supporting the other person.
The first child born out of love is the relationship itself.
But let us not forget that “the quality of all our relationships is a direct function of our relationship to ourselves.” Paying attention to and exploring ourselves are equally important.
A relationship can only be happy if we are happy in it, too.
For that to happen, we have to find and hear our innermost, authentic voice that is masked by our effort to meet expectations and take on different roles. We both have to connect with this voice.
We will hit many bumps in the road.
We want our partner to accept us just the way we are, but we tend to have a lot of expectations. And if the other fails to meet them, we believe that they do not really love us. We get offended, we shut them out, and we harbor resentment.
The aim is to unmask ourselves, and call attention to the paradoxes that spoil our relationships. To unsparingly expose ourselves so that we can get closer to our and the other’s authentic self.
We have to learn and teach each other about ourselves and the other person.
Our programs and products facilitate all this with words, games, and humor.
A book, games, theater, performances, mobile applications.
Although it might be hard to balance our own innermost desires and needs, and the other person’s oftentimes different wishes, our best shot at healing our original wounds is the intimacy offered by a relationship.
Every relationship gives you the chance to return to the unity and happiness of Paradise. All of us has a faint memory of the early symbiosis we had with our mother, when it was only “Us”—and everyone has an unconscious desire to relive this blissful state. We also remember the feeling of being separated, being “exiled” from this safe place, and we constantly yearn to go back. We wish to return to the feeling of unity that we once experienced.
The journey to this destination—where we will find our authentic, true self, and real love in ourselves and in the relationship—is full of dead ends and obstacles.
The mission of the Love Garden program is to provide participants with signposts and pragmatic guides that help them to come to life-changing realizations. We offer easy-to-understand psychological models and a basic theoretical background. We draw on approximately 20 years of experience as relationship counsellors and mentors, as well as lessons learned in our own lives.
We can change ourselves, our fate, and our relationships. Once we recognize the patterns in our own lives, we can overwrite and change them. We can remove our earlier—even our transgenerational—shackles so that we can exercise free will. This is essential to break the cycle of “Who is right?” games.
